When I was about 14 years old, I sat in my guidance counselor’s office complaining about how I didn’t fit in and how some of the other kids were picking on me and saying things about me. I had been educated in the public-school system from kindergarten through eighth grade and then attended a catholic high school. It was a tough transition because most of the other kids had attended other catholic grammar schools together.
As I sat in Brother Maurice O’Malley’s office at Holy Cross High School telling him my tales of woe and playing the victim, I looked over his desk at these “shell people” (literal figurines made out of shells) which his sister, who was a nun, used to make. He said, “You need to be like those shell people and not care. Ignore them. Their words mean nothing and the more you ignore them, the less they will taunt you.”
He also said, “Why should you care what they think of you?” I thought, “Easy for him to say.” As he had pure white hair and could not relate to a teen like me. What did he know about being a teen?
Discovering Self-Confidence
Years later, when I was about 35 years old and had become friends with another white-haired man named Joey, I still carried this same burden – over twenty years later, about not being good enough. Good looking enough, smart enough and blah, blah, blah. One day, Joey and I were talking and I was opening up to him about my thoughts. He looked at me with such a look of shock and said, “Wow! Why would you think something like that about yourself? That is nothing of what I thought when I met you.” He went on to tell me that when I present myself, I appear so filled with self-confidence and that it was a shame I couldn’t see it.
This also reminds me of the book I read years later called Psycho-Cybernetics by Dr. Maxwell Maltz. He was a plastic surgeon who noticed that no matter how beautiful his patients were after the surgery, it all depended on them changing their minds. It was an inside job. Some would have increased and improved self-confidence while others saw the same person with flaws when they looked in the mirror. What was different?
The Unconscious Mind
The difference is reprograming the unconscious mind. Many people have great self-confidence because they have a natural talent towards something like sports or public speaking. Some say you can increase your self-confidence simply by working harder and doing better. This is half of the equation however. Some people cannot even get started because their self-confidence is so low.
Therefore, hypnosis is perfect for increasing your self-confidence because it is an inside job. Meaning you must undo your false beliefs about yourself to increase your self-confidence. This exists deep beneath the conscious mind in the unconscious part of your mind.
You were born with great self-confidence, which is natural, others start to reprogram you with their negative beliefs. A belief in limitation. People can be so cruel that by the time you enter grade school much of the natural born self-confidence you had has been eroded away. When you use hypnosis to increase your self-confidence, it is permanent change. Changing the past images and thoughts of yourself from the inside allows you to experience the freedom you deserve.
Change your thoughts, change your life!
Hypnosis works to replace the negative messages with the positive messages. You are what you think you are, because your unconscious mind accepts everything you tell it through your thoughts as face value.
I wonder if you are ready to change your thoughts to change your life? Hypnosis works to help you make those changes. I work with motivated people who are ready and want real change! Contact me now! It all starts with a free 20-minute phone consultation, so we can come up with a plan that works for you.
